1. You panic before thinking of a solution.
You lose your mind at the first sign of difficulty/trouble, completely forgetting that you can figure it out and it’s not the end of the world.
2. You crack under pressure/Peer pressure.
You allow the opinions of others to change your mind then you’re left upset that you didn’t follow your heart. Or after you’ve made a decision you allow others to make you feel bad and second guess your decision.
3. You don’t look at everything.
You’re selfish! When you want to do something, you don’t look at how it may affect others until after the fact. Then, once you’re tired of dealing with your decision you expect everyone to be understanding even if you hurt them in the process. I completely understand doing what’s best for you, but sometimes you do have to look at how it’ll make certain people feel.
4. You make other people’s problems your own.
You’re already stressed out enough, yet you still choose to take on issues that you have no control over. And 9 times out of 10 you can do absolutely nothing to help, but you’re still going to stress yourself because it’s in your nature – keep in mind that it’s not healthy.
If you happen to do one or more of these things I know your life is hard because I do all of them. I’ve been this way as long as I can remember, and I know it’s unhealthy, but I’m most definitely in the process of change. I realized I’ve been living mentally messed up because I focus solely on the negative in my life. I’ve allowed so much negativity to cloud my thoughts that I sometimes forget that positivity even exist. If you continue to focus on the negative you’ll never be happy, and you’ll always be sitting around somewhere feeling sorry for yourself. In life you have to take the good with the bad – but it’s up to you if you let the bad outweigh the good or not. Before you panic stop everything you’re doing, take a few deep breathes – as many as you need to pull yourself together – and think of ways around whatever the issue is because it may not be an issue at all or as big as you’re making it. If you feel you’re not strong enough to stay true to YOUR decisions then stop sharing them with people because they can only give their opinion if you tell them your business. Before you make decisions think about if they’ll be final, who’ll be affected, and if it’s even worth it. You have enough to worry about so stop allowing the problems of others to consume you especially when they’re not trying to fix it themselves. I know, I know it’s all easier said then done, but you’ll soon get there and realize how much lighter you’ll feel and less difficult your life actually is.